As noted in a comment to yesterday’s post (thanks, Lauren!), not only is November NaBloPoMo, the month also is dedicated to promoting adoption awareness.
Let me be clear. For me, promoting adoption awareness doesn’t mean making people aware of adoption. It means making people aware about the issues in adoption.
This means talking. Talking about the absolute importance of ethics in adoption. Talking about what openness in adoption really means. Talking about open records and giving adoptees access to information that is already theirs. It means talking about using respectful language, about understanding adoption more than a predictable cable television movie. It means getting employers to offer adoption leave alongside traditional maternity leave. It means ensuring that all those involved in adoption are treated with the respect they deserve. It means opening a dialogue.
So this month serves to remind me of all these things. To talk the talk and walk the walk. To continue to correct and clarify every single time it’s needed in my own conversations with others about some facet of adoption. Sometimes it’s not easy. I’ve had colleagues, friends, folks in my family — casually roll their eyes or shrug because I care about syllables uttered and terms used and (try to politely) interrupt conversations to right the wrong when it happens. Those reactions are hard, too, because it shows me they aren’t willing to think about it more than the moment at hand — and this is for a colleague, friend, family member. The nuances matter. They serve to change mindsets, to shed light — and stereotypes.
As wife to an adoptee with no access to his own birth records and story, and as mother to a little girl in an adoption where preserving openness is a top priority, the message in this little video is quite appropos. Although it’s been around a bit, thought I’d share it in case it’s new to anyone seeing it here for the first time.
Watch it, then head on over to youtube and comment. If the piece wins the Dashboard Confessional Video Contest, the piece will air on MTV. And that exposure is yet another step toward enlightening those that only know adoption from bad jokes, bad movies and bad examples.
NaBloPoMo Stats: 2 down, 28 to go.